Not long ago, I used to have this dialogue with my inner self very often. I used to ask myself, ” “Am I good enough, in my duties as a mother, a wife? Am I ‘Perfect’ enough? “ And in the chase of this so-called, “Perfect Self”, I used to resort to Self-doubt, Self-unworthiness, and almost Self-hatred. This resulted in a lot of resentment and emotional upheavals.
My Self-doubt story led me to a journey of discovering the solutions to relieve me from this guilt and let me have compassion and empathy toward me. I understood how necessary it is to amp up my Self-worth for a happier me.
I understood that it’s not only about celebrating our brilliance and breakthroughs but even our breakdowns, failures, and imperfections must be honored.
It’s about accepting all the things that we can’t change and changing all those things that we can.
It’s about falling in love with who we are. To begin a lifelong romance with ourselves. Loving ourselves so much that there is a complete Self-acceptance. When we fall in love with who we are, we allow the world to fall in love with us too. Here we are not forcing ourselves to become someone else, but we are allowing ourselves to be true and vulnerable.
There is this really powerful word called “Declutter”. When we declutter we uncover and boost our Self-worth.
1) Decluttering mind of not-enoughness.
- Positive and compassionate self-talk works wonders.
- The “Growth Mindset” of looking forward to identifying with our dreams and goals, and finding a way to achieve them is a great feed for our Self-worth.
2) Decluttering life of toxic people and energy vampires
- If they are in our inner circle whom we can’t avoid, We need to keep a safe distance.
- We need to stay calm when interacting with them.
- And rather than getting irritated we bless them and have empathy for their ignorance.
- It seems impossible, but if tried, it’s magical for maintaining our sanity.
3) Decluttering space:
- It’s a feel-good factor.
- Getting rid of unwanted stuff from the desk, wardrobe, kitchen, and house on the whole. *The purpose of tidying up is not just to keep things clean and organized, rather, our goal is to create a space that improves our sense of wellbeing.
- Letting go of something that is no longer serving and welcoming something new in its place can be deeply therapeutic.
4) Decluttering our day:
- When we start being an early bird, we start owning our superpower.
- By doing so, we are waking up for our day and are not being forced to wake up to our day.
- And we thus get a lift to our productivity as we organize and plan our daily chores and tasks.
5) Decluttering emotions:
- We must start validating our feelings and emotions.
- Paying attention and processing them rather than suppress, disregard, and clutter them up inside us.
It’s not about perfection.It’s about effort.And when you bring that effort every single day, that’s where transformation happens. That’s how change occurs.
Jillian Michael