My last week went quite rough, there was some indecisiveness and there were some self-doubts… Why can’t life go and flow with ease? The way where there is always sunshine and smiles, I asked myself. Then I remembered what my mum used to tell me when I was a teenager, she always stressed upon the fact that “Everything that happens in life is for the best. There may be some things that may feel really bad right now, but in the future, you realize those times made you a strong person. So, Trust life.”
I usually am a person who would analyze and solve the problem then and there. But this time I realized that, Life is telling me, “Why label anything good or bad? Why label a situation a ‘problem’ at all? Accept the ‘isness’ of this moment. In certain states the best thing to do is allow some space and time for the situation to unfold further and start healing itself.” My stress and urge to urgently solve everything faded a bit. I recognized, instead of quick reaction and hurried action, sometimes it’s right to just wait and watch.
Below are some strikingly contrasting options we come across in our daily lives. Why not give ourselves situational flexibility to adopt any of the two polarities? This mental attitude would release a lot of self-doubt and self-guilt.
- Sometimes self-care means canceling plans, watching TV, and not responding to any text messages.
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Sometimes self-care means acknowledging our tendency to self-isolate, and pushing ourselves to respond to those tests, and showing up to our commitments even if we don’t feel like doing it.
- Sometimes growth means being an Action Ninja, doing intense planning and instant execution.
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Sometimes growth means slowing down for some introspection and self-reflection.
- Sometimes, we can choose relationships that only offer us love and alignment.
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Sometimes we can notice how our desire to cut off relationships that are not ‘perfect’ root from our own inability to sit with uncomfortable emotions.
- Sometimes we can be vulnerable and cry our lungs out to vent out and feel unburdened and relieved.
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Sometimes we can be a strong vessel to hold our difficult emotions inside us.
- Sometimes we can end relationships that aren’t aligned with our highest selves.
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Sometimes we can make peace with the fact that relationships aren’t meant to be, and will never be, perfect.
- Sometimes we can leave people, places, and institutions that occasionally make us feel uncomfortable.
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Sometimes we can learn to make peace with, and accept the absolute normalcy of, discomfort and frustration.
No one can tell you what is ‘BEST’ for you because what is ‘BEST’ for you isn’t an objective truth. You must not judge yourself for choosing the option that seemed right to you at that particular time and place. Life is fluid and ever evolving. So, do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better. Concisely, Experiment, Enjoy and Evolve.
We are mosaics___ pieces of light, love, history, stars – glued together with magic and music and words.