‘Why Me?’ How many times have we pondered over this? I have done it most of the times when I encounter situational or personal disappointments. But, does it help in any way? Not really!! The only thing it does is, feeling better momentarily by sympathizing with ourselves as we put us in the victim’s place and feeling worse later, because it would not give us any solution.
Oftentimes, we ask such disempowering questions like, ‘Why me?’, ‘What is wrong?’, ‘Who is to blame?’, ‘It happened only because of him/her.’ As soon as something happens, we freak out and search for whom to blame and try to look for scapegoats immediately. We blame/shame somebody or something.
This may seem quite a normal and natural thing to do. But, can we look at it in a different light? As direction in life is hugely determined by the questions, we ask to ourselves and life. And believe me, the universe answers the questions we predominantly juggle with in our head and ask all the time. So, isn’t it smart to ask meaningful questions in life?
Like, ‘What good is here that I presently cannot see?’
‘What is seeking to emerge in my life, right now?’
‘What lesson life is trying to teach me?’
The universe ought to answer them all. It will tap into the database of human consciousness and all the experiences that have happened on our planet to revert back to us. Patiently, compassionately, listen with your inner ear of intuition.
Growth Work:
- Let’s begin to think about how we are going to shift and ask meaningful questions in life.
- As we do so, we start transcending the externality of victimization and enter into the interiority of transformation.
- They say, we begin to sensitize our intuition through positive inquiry.
- If stuck, don’t fight against it mentally, rather ask, “What quality has to emerge from my life in order for me to have peace of mind?”
- Practice becoming an intuitive listener. As we pay more attention to the quality to nurture within ourselves than trying to criticize and complain, transformation will begin to occur.
- And when circumstances do change, we become more of us.
- So, contemplate, moving from asking disempowering questions to empowering questions.
The results you get in life are only as good as the questions you ask. Maybe it is time to ask better questions.